I do wish I had checked into this blog a few years ago so I could give the reader a better timeline, but time flies when you’re having fun right?
Bill and I have since gotten married, and looking back on these posts and the time we were together – it was like running the gauntlet sometimes! We’ve been married three months, and I swear sometimes I already forget. Not in a bad way – in a there’s no more pressure on us and we are just living our lives kind of way. It’s like when you’re trying to get engaged and planning for the wedding so you can get past that step and move on to your real life together you forget how small of a step it really is in the grand scheme of things. Let me tell you – my mother never let me forget I was in the most important thing of my life at the time! When we first got engaged – we even took pause and I moved out for a few months – just so we could make sure it wasn’t just pressure from all sides, and something we really wanted to do. We still were “dating” and “engaged”, and while it did make the beginning of our engagement bitter sweet – it was a much needed time for us to really make sure we were in this for what it really was. A partnership with your other half for the rest of your life. It’s very comforting to know your other half is in it to win it!
In the time we have been together – we have traveled more than I ever thought I would. If traveling is important to you – make sure you find someone that loves it just as much as you do – if not more! Reason I say this is Bill usually plans way farther into the future than I do, and this can help a lot when trying to plan a big trip on a budget. I probably wouldn’t have gone on half our trips, simply because I would have waited too long and been too distracted by our everyday lives to go through the effort to make them extraordinary. I only hope our wants level out and we can continue to go on trips when we get blessed with children. We have our honeymoon coming up and since we’re going to Vietnam we need to wait at least 3 months to conceive upon returning – pending of course a negative on a blood test for the Zika virus. These first new years of marriage will be interesting – you have to decide what things you are truly willing to compromise on to make your spouse happy. I hoped we would just do Japan and conceive on our honeymoon but because Bill really wanted to go to Vietnam as well on our trip – we need to chance waiting months longer to start a family. I think if I had a job I really enjoyed it wouldn’t hurt so much to wait this long. I’m pretty sure ever since I decided I wasn’t going to be a career girl all I wanted was to be a really hot/cool “soccer mom”. I feel like I will really nail all the things with having kids. I will also probably look back on this part of my post someday and laugh as my naivete. Oh well!
This month I have challenged myself to go to the gym more and save more money on groceries. So far I’ve gone triple my normal amount to the gym – which still isn’t saying much since I was never really a gym goer before, and I THINK saved on groceries. It’s hard to tell when you are used to buying staple grocery items and your parents end up buying you a bunch of food from Costco unintentionally. I will consider that one a win so far. My parents have also started visiting every 2-3 weeks, which is a blessing. Bill has a lot to learn about home improvement and I need to have people to appreciate my cooking and home making. Win-win so far there! This past visit they mentioned they would like a more comfortable bed – we were planning to upgrade our Queen to a King once I’m pregnant so it’s slightly sped up our timeline for a new large purchase. I remember now why getting our original Queen bed was such a fiasco. Bill will NOT do these things normally. He thinks there must be some crazy stupid reason beds cost so much and you really don’t need to spend that much on a bed to get a quality one. We got our Queen bed for under $500. I spent almost $200 on a foam topper. He is sending me options for under $1000 for a King….not sure if that’s an improvement or not. I’m trying to think of how expensive it’s really going to be as well, I mean with a new size bed comes new sheets, foam topper, comforter, bed frame, etc. so it’s really going to cost a lot more than just the mattress! I’m trying to hold onto my Home Goods part time job until we figure it out – supposedly this is the season all that stuff comes in on large truckloads and I hopefully can find something good in there.
It’s getting a little late in the morning so I need to wrap this up. I’ve been working for my dad lately on the side and what is it working for parents that is so damn hard sometimes. Sometimes they have such unrealistic expectations and there is absolutely no way you can get clarification or direction – or even a solid deadline. Or is it just my dad? I love him to death and want to make him happy but I don’t want to drive myself into the ground like he does when it’s not even a full time job. I don’t understand how there are no parameters for helping. I have to send him a report this morning, hopefully I can finish that up and get to the gym!